The buildup to the wedding is so exciting; making
arrangements, laying out a plan for your future lives
together. But after the honeymoon ends, life begins. And
while you may have the most wonderful marriage, even the
most devoted couple is certain to find the married lifestyle
to be at times, well let’s say, less than exciting. I mean
let’s face it, you love the other person, but spending all
day with the same individual makes for a lot of routine
activities, that if you are not careful can drag on your
relationship and make you both feel unsatisfied with what is
otherwise a very loving relationship.
As a result, it is vital that couples not simply sit back in
the belief that a marriage will remain exciting merely on
its own momentum. Rather, it is important that spouses take
some basic steps to infuse their relationships with a bit of
excitement.
1. Have Independent Interests
You cannot have anything interesting to say if you spend
every waking moment doing and experiencing the same things.
Having independent interests is not a sign of a weak
marriage, as some newlyweds believe, but rather a sign of
its strength. Having independent interests means that you
have something unique to bring to conversations, ensuring
that you both always have something interesting, and yes
exciting, to say to one another.
2. Spontaneous Events
While you were dating, planning the spontaneous event seemed
rather innate. But, as we grow comfortable in our
relationships and more busy by life’s obligations, we have a
tendency to rely upon the strength of our relationships and
in so doing fail to keep things spontaneous. So to mix
things up; plan an afternoon or evening event that is
completely new. Try that show your spouse has been dying to
see, or visit that new restaurant that just opened up.
3. Never threaten separation
This is less a rule to keep things exciting, and more one to
keep them sound. A relationship can only grow and remain
exciting if both parties are confident in their commitment
to one another. As a consequence, make it a rule between you
and your partner that you never threaten separation or
divorce. Establish an understanding that if you threaten
separation, you should be heading out the door to back it
up. It is a harsh rule, but one that needs imposition if
your relationship is to survive the ups and downs which are
a part of all marriages.
4. Weekend Trips
One sure-fire way to inject some romance into your marriage
is to take a vacation with just the two of you. But with the
rigors of life and the costs of a trip, a full-blown
vacation can seem hard to justify. So instead opt for a one
night local vacation. Plan a dinner and evening out, and cap
it off with a night in a hotel. The expense isn’t a lot
considering the excitement that a trip, no matter how small,
can bring into a relationship.
5. Spice up the bedroom
The final tip to bring excitement into any relationship is
to spice things up in the bedroom. Your sex life has a
strong correlation with the strength and satisfaction of
your relationship. So try exploring a new position or even a
sexual fantasy or adult toy with your partner, and in so
doing share something intimate and bring some excitement
into your marriage.